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Babyish Talk - talking like a baby to gain parental
attention
'Babyish-talk' is entirely different to the coos and gurgles an
infant makes, here the child may revert to substituting words, as in
"Me don't like dat", said in a somewhat high-pitched whine. This
behaviour can be extremely irritating, however it is a normal part
of a developing child and is only temporary. The cause of this is
usually due to a change in the child's everyday life, such as moving
house, changing/starting school, the arrival of a new baby, parent
working longer hours or even a dispute between a teacher or friend
at school. It can also occur when the child is feeling particularly
tired, hungry or feels the need to gain attention.
Correct handling of the situation:
Pleading with her to stop, would be giving too much attention, and
she may just realise that she has found a way of getting you to
focus solely on her. Do not ridicule her, simply ignore it, or tell
her that you are unable to understand what she is trying to say, and
can therefore not have what she is asking for. Comment with
pleasure, once she repeats the sentence in a more audible manner.
Saying, "That's better, I can understand you now."
We all feel particularly low and unloved at times, and this may be
the only way your child is able to express his desire to have a few
moments of undivided parental attention. Sit down with him on your
lap, cradling him like a baby and telling him how important he is to
both you and your partner, and how you find it unacceptable that he
uses this form of language, also stating that you will not tolerate
it, and will simply ignore him or leave the room should he revert to
it in the future.
Preventative tips:
Spend quality time with your child, listening to her and allowing
her to reflect her feelings.
Taking the time to read a story together does wonders, as it not
only allows for individual attention, but also affords the
opportunity to discuss the characters emotions.
Encourage her independence, allowing her to help with simple chores
around the house, choosing her own clothes, or helping to bath or
feed the baby.
Choosing an extra-mural activity (music, ballet, horse-riding or any
other activity) is also a wonderful way of encouraging him to feel
capable, and deal with the fact that he is growing up.
It would be wise to take a long, hard look at the child's lifestyle,
especially if the problem persists. You may just find that there is
a certain area in the child's life that causes immense stress, and
should therefore adjust her schedule accordingly, helping to ease
her load somewhat.
A visit to the school may be in order. Discuss issues relating not
only to the classroom, but also the playground. This of course would
be best done without the attendance of the child.
Above all, encourage and praise!
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